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Dating Coach for Tech Founders

Helping ambitious leaders find exceptional relationships

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About Joyce

Despite a thriving career as an MIT engineer, BCG consultant, and Stripe product manager, I spent 5 years struggling with dating. So I did what high performers do: I hired 4 dating coaches, took 2 dating classes, and consumed dozens of books and podcasts until I built my own system. I then met my partner and left Stripe to coach full-time. The love and connection I experience with him every day is what motivates me. I want everyone to feel the joy I feel.

I'm the only dating coach trained in Stanford Business School's Interpersonal Dynamics ("Touchy Feely") methodology. My structured approach combines outer work (analysis, tactics) with inner work (mindset, emotional connection).

Joyce Zhang Dating Coach for High Performers

How I work

I operate as an executive coach for your dating life. I meet you where you are: whether you're rebuilding after a breakup, actively dating and want to improve date quality, or navigating the transition to a committed relationship.

  • 1:1 sessions, weekly or biweekly, on whatever's most alive for you that week

  • Tailored action items between sessions to keep you progressing toward your goals

  • Text support for questions that can't wait until your next session

  • Mock dates with other clients for real-time feedback

Events

  • AI Engineer Fair Session

    Human Connection in the Age of AI

    June 29 · 5PM

    A panel and workshop leaving you with tools to be more effective in your professional and personal relationships

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Testimonials

  • YC Founding Engineer

    “By the end of our 3 months of coaching, I started seriously dating someone I had a really strong connection with. What I didn't expect were the sessions themselves. I felt so supported and understood.”

  • MIT Alum

    “Joyce helped me achieve goals I didn't think were possible in 3 months. I went from having a terrible time on dating apps to starting a meaningful relationship. Joyce has an incredible ability to understand high achievers and offer the guidance they need to thrive.”

  • Dave Fontenot

    “Joyce helped me get a ton of clarity on who I'm looking for.”

  • Harvard Alum

    “3 months after I started working with Joyce, I found my now-boyfriend. I would not be where I am today — happily in a meaningful relationship — without her. If finding a life partner is your #1 priority, I 10/10 recommend Joyce.”

  • Principal Engineer

    “I'd been single for 7 years and on and off the apps for 5. I'm now not only more confident and in a happy, committed relationship, but also more outgoing. I'd recommend Joyce in a heartbeat.”

  • a16z-backed Founder

    "Joyce helped me move my life's plot forward. When I started working with her, I’d never been in a long-term relationship and was insecure about my lack of experience. I'm now in my first long-term relationship."

  • Stanford Founder

    "I've gone on more dates in the last 6 months than the past 6 years. Joyce offers a practical, systematic approach that takes the guesswork out of dating and helps Type A overachievers like me make progress just as I'd approach other parts of life."

  • Founding Engineer, ex-Airbnb

    "After 6 months of coaching, I’m now in a loving, secure relationship and have stronger self-worth and self-belief. Working with Joyce is the best investment I've made in myself in recent years."

  • YC Founder

    “Within 6 months of working with Joyce, I turned my dating life around. I went on more dates more regularly than I had in years. I even progressed to a months-long connection with someone I was excited about, faster than I ever thought possible.”

  • Tesla Staff Engineer

    When I started with Joyce, I was burned out and stuck after a string of mediocre dates. I'd read dating books, but Joyce gave me concrete examples and constructive feedback that actually changed how I showed up on dates. She helped me get comfortable being vulnerable, which opened the door to deeper connection. I'm now dating someone exclusively.

  • Felix

    After 2 years of online dating and a few surface-level relationships, I was losing confidence in my process. I'm now several months into the deepest relationship I've had. I’m clear on what I'm looking for and how to find it. What I valued most about working with Joyce was the emphasis on self-sufficiency and creating a process I can iterate on myself.

FAQ

  • Founders, executives, investors, and mid-career professionals who bring the same intentionality to their personal lives as their careers. My clients are growth-minded, process-oriented, and high-agency. They don't just want to "find someone." They want to build an exceptional life partnership and are willing to do the outer and inner work to get there.

  • Many clients notice meaningful shifts within the first few sessions, including clarity on what they're looking for or better matches. We track progress through both outer milestones (match quality, dates with long-term potential) and inner shifts (how you make decisions, trust yourself, connect with dates). While some clients find their person in 3 months and others unfold their growth over a year or more, all of my clients make meaningful progress toward their dating goals.

  • Consider me a member of your personal board of directors. Reach out whenever you want input, including on a text thread, profile draft, or date debrief. I respond within 1-2 days. You can also book spot coaching sessions for time-sensitive situations. All of this is included in your monthly retainer.

  • Most clients spend a few hours per week outside of sessions refining their profile, debriefing dates, or doing inner work like journaling or reflection. The goal is to make every hour you spend on dating more effective. I've worked with busy executives who were surprised by how much progress they made.

  • We start with an initial 3-month commitment to ensure we have runway to create meaningful results. After that, we continue month-to-month. Some clients work with me for a few months; others stay on for a year or more, including after they've started dating someone. I focus on delivering a transformative experience and trust that it will turn into a long-term relationship when coaching is going well for both of us.

  • I meet with clients Monday, Tuesday, Thursday, and Friday from 12-5pm Pacific. Clients typically schedule their next session at the end of the current one.

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